"What do parents expect when they are looking for a guy for their girl?". I was taken back when my friend asked me this question yesterday. Why this question all of a sudden and why me?
well thats another thing, now comming back to the question , what do parents expect?? mmmmmmmmm....... i told him that they expect that the guy be well settled, have a good job and a house in his name will be an added advantage. The guy should be good. He shot back -"How do you find that?". Wellllllll............ i had no answer.
The rating is more on materialistic terms.....
1.Guy in a software company
2.earning in 5 figures a month
3.Having a house/car or any kind of asset
4.scores double if he lives in the US.
Are these what our parents look for? Is there nothing more (leave the rasi, natcathram and jathagam)?
In a marraige where we choose our partners ourselfves , we atleat have times when we have spent together giving us a better stand in judguing a person.
But what about the arranged marraiges ..... how do they evaluate if the guy is good??
Word of the mouth? but they mostly dont give the full picture and partial pictures are mostly if not always deceptive.
And what is with this US factor that the parents are so crazy about? I even have friends who want to go to the US - reason : "machaan....US mappilaiku movusu jasthi da, nalla ponnu kadaipa".
No ,im not saying that guys in the US are bad. But what is it that makes them so special???
Money,lifestyle, and the big factor USA -jus 3 initials...........
Confused Desi's these people -- not wanting to live the way we live in INDIA and not able to completly adapt to they way of living in the US.
Ring ....Ring.
me :Hello sollu amma ....
mom: Oru US varan vanthiruku . Pakalama. Nan enna sollatum??
Aiyooooooo kadavule............
Sunday, February 05, 2006
Mental Trauma.....
What do girls working away from home have to face??
Other than the mental trauma of being away from home and not having anyone around, there are millions of other things and people which make living a perfect impossibility.
What is with the mentality of the people around??That girls working away from home are uncultured...Not responsible ?
Living in an apartment is all the more difficult, cause u fall right under the scrutinizing eyes of all your neighbours.
The look that the neighbours in your flat give you when u come home after completing ur second shift could seriously burn you out in that instance.
Jus the sounds of laughter at night can have them shouting at you from their balconies .
Guess their parents didn't teach them the niceties of talking, Cause they not only force you quite but will go out of their way to make sure they insult you as much as they can.
Uncles and old men living with their families use words , which if u listen to will drop dead at that instance. Ddon't these people have girls at home who study outside living in a hostel. We are not expecting them to be over friendly and make us fell at home. But please don't make our lives so difficult to live.
Of all the problems, we could do with one lesser......And we are not asking for something out of the sky.
And it makes things even more hard to believe, cause this is the attitude in the most cosmopolitan city of the country.
It is not that we ran out of our homes, its jus that certain situations and conditions force us to work away from home and we are not at all happy with it.
Other than the mental trauma of being away from home and not having anyone around, there are millions of other things and people which make living a perfect impossibility.
What is with the mentality of the people around??That girls working away from home are uncultured...Not responsible ?
Living in an apartment is all the more difficult, cause u fall right under the scrutinizing eyes of all your neighbours.
The look that the neighbours in your flat give you when u come home after completing ur second shift could seriously burn you out in that instance.
Jus the sounds of laughter at night can have them shouting at you from their balconies .
Guess their parents didn't teach them the niceties of talking, Cause they not only force you quite but will go out of their way to make sure they insult you as much as they can.
Uncles and old men living with their families use words , which if u listen to will drop dead at that instance. Ddon't these people have girls at home who study outside living in a hostel. We are not expecting them to be over friendly and make us fell at home. But please don't make our lives so difficult to live.
Of all the problems, we could do with one lesser......And we are not asking for something out of the sky.
And it makes things even more hard to believe, cause this is the attitude in the most cosmopolitan city of the country.
It is not that we ran out of our homes, its jus that certain situations and conditions force us to work away from home and we are not at all happy with it.
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